Week 1

Step 1: Dream up and Create the Blueprint - Week 1.  

Suggested Nights: Tuesday, Jan. 31 or Thursday, Feb. 2

This is the very beginning of the process. When it comes to building a house, you scout out the perfect piece of land and then you meet with the architect and begin to dream up and create the blueprints. The same thing needs to happen with your child. The end result is creating a culture of open and honest conversation, so let your child know that! Talk to them about exactly the kind of relationship you would like to have with them.

Two great articles to (re)read for insight/encouragement for this conversation are Blaine’s, entitled, “Eliminate Barriers” and “Practical Tips.”

For Dads: This may need to start with you saying you’re sorry. I know as a man that this is a very difficult thing to do, but most dads are in a place where they don’t give 100% to their families. I know work is hard, I know financial stress can cause you to lose the ability to focus on other things and I know you just want to relax and watch TV. But, you’re called to be the best man you can possibly be for your family. Have you been doing that? If not, be honest with your kids. Now you’ll need to make sure that you’re willing to improve because you can only apologize so many times to your kids before they give up on you. I have seen a number of dads realize where they are falling short and really strive to improve. They realize how much love their heavenly Father has for them, and they need to represent that here on earth for their kids in a tangible way. I guarantee you’ll never regret being a great dad to your kids.

For Moms: Be ready for the long haul. Your kids may already feel close to you, but that doesn’t mean they are going to tell you everything or listen to what you say about purity overnight. It will takes weeks, months, and years (see Alli Curby’s article) for some kids to realize the truth that you are saying. Be honest, sincere, and calm.

I look forward to hearing and reading about how it went!